So here we are again, another episode of “people inserting themselves into situations they understand as deeply as a puddle in July”. Fascinating behaviour, honestly. Anthropologists would have a field day.
Recently, i’ve had yet another wave of comments, this time from a self declared “buddy” of Reckless Ben, because apparently when one person has an issue, it naturally summons a supporting cast of unsolicited opinions from people who were not there, do not know the context and yet feel spiritually qualified to speak. Brave, confident and completely detached from reality.
Let’s start with Instagram, then YouTube. Same energy, different platform. The pattern? immediate defence of someone they had absolutely zero involvement with. Now, there are only two possibilities here. Either they genuinely don’t know what kind of behaviour they’re defending or they do know, and they’re choosing to ignore it because it’s more convenient. Neither option is particularly flattering, but here we are.
Then we get to the YouTube commentator, the highlight reel of misplaced confidence.
He proudly announces that Reckless Ben is his “buddy”, follows it up with “your video sucked”, and then attempts to wrap it all up in a strange, sarcastic lecture about how commenting helps boost the algorithm. Almost like he accidentally stumbled into saying something correct while trying to be dismissive, a rare moment of educational value in an otherwise confused contribution.
Let’s break this down slowly, because clearly we need to.
If a video truly “sucks,” most people move on. They don’t sit there, watch it, process it and then take additional time out of their day to comment. That’s not disinterest, that’s engagement with extra steps. Which, ironically proves my point better than I ever could. So thank you for that, unintentionally.
Then there’s the view count comment, at the time he confidently declared I had 20 views. Not quite, I had 27. Now it’s 32, so not only was the point weak, it was also incorrect. A bold combination, and while we’re comparing numbers, his own video sits comfortably at 12 views. Which is fine, genuinely. Everyone starts somewhere, but using numbers as a weapon tends to backfire when yours are well, visible.
Notice the track record, he lied about my numbers and Ben lied about our situation, I wonder what else they've lied about!
And then we reach the grand finale: “Have fun trying to get people to dislike the most likeable human being I’ve ever met”.
This is where it gets interesting.
Because clearly, he hasn’t read the full context, or the blog, or seen the screenshots, or understood that there is an entire documented timeline that exists outside of his personal admiration bubble. The idea that someone can form such a strong opinion while missing 90% of the information is almost impressive, almost.
Let me make this very simple, I have the full receipts, conversations, context. The parts that were conveniently left out elsewhere, so when someone jumps in with absolute certainty while lacking basic awareness of the situation, it doesn’t make them look loyal, it makes them look uninformed.
And then there’s the irony of all ironies.
This individual in this orbit uploads a video announcing they’re quitting YouTube due to lack of views and subscribers, sitting at 10 subscribers. Meanwhile, i’m at 153. My podcast? over 1,000 listens, across multiple platforms, global audience. The same content they’re dismissing on YouTube is being consumed elsewhere, widely.
So when someone says “no one cares”, what they usually mean is “I haven’t looked beyond the one metric I personally understand”.
That’s not analysis, that’s laziness.
And here’s the part people don’t seem to expect, i’ve had messages, a lot of them. People who have seen the situation, who understand it, who’ve had similar experiences, who don’t share this glowing “most likeable human being” perspective. So no, that narrative isn’t as universal as some would like to believe.
Shocking, I know. Humans having different experiences with the same person, revolutionary concept.
At the end of the day, this entire situation says more about the people jumping in than it does about me. If your first instinct is to defend something you don’t fully understand, dismiss information you haven’t reviewed and argue points that are factually incorrect, maybe pause, reflect, read. Just a thought.
But I suppose that wouldn’t be nearly as entertaining, would it.
